Dating Apps Suck

Hey y’all,

It’s been a minute. Let’s talk. This quarantine is no joke (*screams internally*).

Anyway, today I want to talk about my frustrations with online dating. Briefly, I mentioned before that dating apps are a nightmare. And I specified that being a black plus sized woman, makes this situation even worse. Well, honestly at this point calling it a nightmare is a gross under estimation. Sis. These men are boring. Look, I am no comedian, but I can hold a conversation. I’m not sure if it’s lack of interest, or genuine lack of personality, but I do not understand.

Disclaimer, I love myself and I know I am beautiful…BUT I am not what would be considered conventionally attractive. That being said, these apps already have a limited sample size. Especially, if you are looking to date a non-white person. It actually might be easier to peel a grape than to find a person you are: attracted to, match with, and are able to have a conversation with. I mean the number of men on the app whose first message is a sexual innuendo is ridiculous. Then you have the Kings of Konversation (lol get it 😊), who only give one-word responses and never ask any questions.

Look sir, if you weren’t interested, why did you swipe right? Furthermore, if you have nothing to say it is okay not to respond. At this point, that is preferred over struggling through a conversation. I have a friend or two that has successful navigated one of these apps to find a decent human being, but even they often comment on the rarity of their situation.

Honestly, at this point I may have to just disappoint my grandma and call it quits. Okay, so maybe I’m being a little dramatic, but dang. A sister is tired. I just want to meet a regular person and have a good conversation (aiming too high? Maybe).

Some of you may be wondering why I don’t just delete the apps all together. Well, I often do. I rarely keep the apps longer than a week at a time; because I feel the life draining from me, each time I open one, and end up deleting them. But this time, at the urging of some friends (IYKYK) and my grandma, I decided to try and stick it out a full month. This has truly been a long and tedious process. Even with a budding entanglement I still find myself utterly bored. I mentioned to a close friend that I understand relationships take work. But if you’re gonna stress me out at least be entertaining. Thankfully, I have not lost complete hope for romantic love. Love that is meant for you will find; what’s yours will always be yours. However, I have lost hope for these apps. Counting down the days until I can delete them.

Update: I deleted the apps after writing this. Lol I did not even make the month.

I can’t be the only one struggling like this…right? Comment down below.

How do you feel about dating apps?

Stay tuned for my post about my worst date ever…You guessed it courtesy of a dating app.